Perception equals Reality

Have you ever heard friends, family or just random people say “perception is reality”?  Much too often we hear this phrase thrown around as though it’s a true scientific fact…  The “reality” though, is not perception, or in other words, what we've thought to ourselves to be true.  No one can truly know the reality of any single person, subject or thing without the undeniable “FACTS”… period.

So, if you find yourself saying or even thinking “perception is reality” stop yourself because you have already condemned someone to “your reality” not theirs.

         There are solutions to finding out the reality.

• Don’t jump to your own conclusion.
• Ask the person what is happening in their life at the moment.
• Ask why they reacted in whatever manner they did.
• Don’t assume if you are unclear about something.
•  Actively Listen!
• If you don’t want to or don’t care to listen, than leave it be and shut up.

Honestly, most often people simply just believe only what they want to hear in order not to burst the little bubble they live in and it makes them happier to be in that bubble, than to know the facts in fear of feeling guilt, remorse and even compassion.  This applies to all kinds of situations, from friendships, family (in-laws, marriage etc.), co-workers or school colleagues.

Keep in mind that everyone in this world is going through something and dealing with issues and troubles you aren't aware of.  Yes, even if they don’t show it and are the happiest, brightest people you know or “believe” they've told you everything… there’s that “perception is reality” again… Don’t you just hate that?

Being respectful of one another is the only way to get through life with minimal unnecessary drama.  Even if you don’t like the other person or don’t agree with their values, religion and actions; it’s their life and no one is going to change for you because that’s what you want them to do.  People simply just don’t change, unless of course they have gone through traumatic or enlightening experiences significant to the individual.  But again, don’t assume that just because you both lost your beloved Granna that the life changing experience and growth you make will be identical. It just doesn't work that way…